It is believed that betrayal is characteristic only. And most often it is justified by natural polygamy. But in a world where gender roles have shifted, and women compete with a strong floor for the right to live as they want, no one canceled the right to sex either. An anonymous letter of the reader about this.
When we published a man’s recognition of why he is cheating, hundreds of letters began to come to the editorial office. Women wrote. But not at all that their men are not like. Women outraged a completely different fact: “Why do you write only about male treason?”It turned out that women are cheating at least.
In confirmation, we share the recognition of a reader from Moscow, who has repeatedly cheated on her husband and assures that she is no exception. Her friends and acquaintances do the same. Why? You will find the answer in a letter that we share with you.
“Each gray mouse has at least one fan”
We will be frank, women are hypocritical. Not all, but many of us. We will never tell a friend about an unsuccessful haircut or excess weight, and we will not do it out of the best motives. We do not want to upset her. After all, as you know, “the whole truth is told only to those who do not love”. We are also modestly silent about betrayal for the time being.
For the first time I cheated on my husband, because I did not have enough sex. We were married by that time a little over a year. The husband got tired at work, went to bed early and got up early. He was not up to me. Treason was random, spontaneous, and I forgot about her for the next day. But the feeling of guilt is left. And I decided: this is not worth it to feel so bad later.
The second time I purposefully searched for a lover because I found out that my husband is cheating on me. This happened after ten years of marriage. Happy marriage, as it seemed to me. From this moment I decided to answer all the attempts of flirting.
I must say that every gray mouse, a large mother or the most closed girl in the world has at least one fan who secretly or clearly sighs along her. It is only to give a green light. So if your wife does not seem attractive to you, remember that it is for you she is a spouse, and for an outsider it is a wonderful stranger.
I quickly found a lover in social networks. Beautiful and younger than me. I considered my marriage a failure, a mistake, and waited for a moment for a divorce, until I found out that almost all my friends live like that.
The myth that women cannot have sex without love came up with women themselves so that husbands sleep calmly
There are six friends in our group in Wottsap. Cheating or cheating on her husband from them five. Only one of us is married to our first man. They are together with school bench. We jokingly tell her – you still have everything ahead. Seven years of marriage is not a deadline.
Even the exemplary wives living in a marriage, which I, like everyone else, considered a role model, was convicted of infidelity. It would seem that she only does that she sits at home with children. What dating? But sometimes one conversation is enough with the father of a son’s classmate, and now you are already drinking coffee in the Chocolate House next to the school.
Working women just like their husbands lie about business trips, linger “in the office”, rent apartments for dates, buy gifts to two men in the same department. There is even a trend for such gifts. At one time, for example, it was fashionable to make a tattoo with the initials of a lover. Not everyone will analyze the ornate monogram, and even if it signs, you can always come up with something, for example, to say that the letters S and F mean the soul and feelings (Feelings), and not Sergey Fedorov at all. Both the husband is calm and it is nice to Sergey.
Believe me, the myth that women cannot have sex without love was invented by women themselves invented. So that husbands sleep calmly while you are at a meeting with “friends”. One of my friends told her husband every day that he was going to the pedicure. The husband calmly let go for three hours, until once he found out what a pedicure is. His anger was terrible. Justifying, a friend brought an iron argument: “How can I cheat on you, dear if I love you? This is your mechanical sex, but we all depend on emotions, feelings!”The husband immediately calmed down and transferred more money to her card.
The stereotype that women are “much more complicated” are successfully distributed by both male and female magazines. Like, we are excited only by candlelights, with a glass of champagne in one hand and a
five -handed man on the other, that instead of a banal compliment, we need to hear “I love you” or “Let’s get married” before deciding to tear off the covers.
That you need to breathe hot in our ear for two hours and do a massage of the feet before offering to go to the hotel. And do not forget to talk two hours after the act itself. Tell this to marry ladies who, after two, have sex with strangers in the club’s toilet.
Psychologists also do not lag behind, claiming that a woman cannot love two at once. Yes Yes. My acquaintance combines love for two men for many years and even gave birth to two sons from them so that none of them be offended. True, the legal husband does not know about the existence of the second. Tell us about female monogamy Lila Brik, in the end.
While men arrange bachelor parties, sending a legal spouse with a child to the south, his wife also does not lose time for nothing
Did the men really have not yet understood: we have the same instincts and needs as they have? Why then one of the most powerful and vivid pleasures in life cannot be available to us? Yes, we do not rush to the first oncoming and rather change with the one we trust or who we know well. But will it be easier for you?
Who inspired men, that only they like young bodies, and we are content with old -aged husbands all our lives and that all ten years of marriage we want only our legal and from each of its touch, we tremble and blood rushes to the head, as for the first time? Men, wake up! We even completely change the wardrobe at least once every six months, because the fashion has changed and the old is already tired! We never wear the same dress for two days in a row. And you think that our “halves” in 15 years cannot get tired of us?
A woman can change with a colleague at work, with a taxi driver, with a former, with a stranger from Karaoke, with a dentist, with a hotel manager. Even with his hairdresser. While men arrange bachelor parties, sending a legal spouse with a child to the south, his wife also does not lose time for nothing. And the child does not bother her at all. My familiar, returning from vacation suspiciously pleased, my husband tried to convict in infidelity.
The perspicacious husband began to ask a five -year -old daughter – “Tell me, my mother had no sailor there?”. For some reason, he decided that exclusively sailors sunbathe on the beaches of Crimea. The child confidently answered: no. And the children, as you know, do not lie.
The husband exhaled. How did he know that his wife spent the whole vacation with his lover, almost like a family – bathed and sunbathed, spent the night in one issue, that his daughter called a temporary dad named, Vanya, and was sure that it was just mother’s friend. And Vanya was not a sailor, but a bartender from a local eatery.
Someone can say that you have such licentious women there, in spoiled Moscow. If. The other day I stumbled upon the forum “ovulyushki”. These are women who are expecting a child or just gave birth. On the site, young mothers from different parts of Russia are discussing when it is necessary to finish breastfeeding, whether it is worth doing a cesarean, to take her husband for childbirth, and so on. And suddenly one of them asks the following question: “And you feel guilty after treason?“Well, now, bricks will fly into this lady,” I thought, “they say, how can you, we are all happy wives and mothers”.
To my surprise, after half an hour, more than a hundred comments gathered in question with confessions and personal stories! Apparently, women on maternity leave were too missing such conversations. They so wanted to share the innermost, boast, feel desired. By the way, pregnancy and childbirth very much affect female self -esteem, and it is precisely after the birth of the child, according to the recognition of the giving birth, many are pulling to the left – to calm their ego.
On this forum, I read such that the screenwriters of the series “betrayal” did not dream. Someone admitted that the husband took out and “deserved” to wear horns. Someone admitted that he was cheating, because the partner does not have time for her, someone said that only the second marriage brought the long-awaited happiness, and the need for treason disappears. Someone wrote that he was only thinking about the adultery, but still does not dare. And this is a forum where only pregnant women and housewives communicate. And no, none of them experienced guilt, and no one came across – the weaker sex is generally more insidious and much sophisticated in deception than strong.